Aging Veterans Who Don’t Take Care of Themselves Benefit From Home Care
Reggie never had much trouble taking care of himself. He was a quiet, reserved veteran of the United States Army. He helped his friends and family whenever he had the opportunity. After his wife passed away in his early 70s, he seemed to withdraw even more from those friends who cared about him. His adult children started worrying about him and noticed a pattern emerging: he was no longer taking adequate care of his personal hygiene.
When a veteran or surviving spouse is having difficulty with personal care, it may point to underlying causes.
Some of the problems could be physical. Reggie could have difficulty getting out of bed or didn’t feel confident with his strength, and therefore decided it would be best to avoid taking showers daily. After a time, he may have thought, “What difference does it make? Nobody sees me anyway.”
Some of the challenges may be emotional or mental.
Depression or dementia could driving factors in whether a person takes adequate care of their physical needs. A person who is extremely depressed, withdrawn, and lonely, especially as they are getting older and facing increased physical and health challenges, may not see the point in putting in so much effort to their personal hygiene.
For Reggie, it was some of that, but also a new disability.
Reggie was having difficulty with his hearing. He didn’t want to say anything and didn’t want to visit the doctor to find out he was going deaf. So he just ‘dealt with it.’
When his adult children would call to talk to him, he just muttered, said yes or no when he felt it was needed, and try to keep things short. He knew things were changing and he was frustrated. He didn’t know what could be done.
Reggie’s income and assets were minimal. He didn’t have much of a pension and was basically living off Social Security. He had no idea there was a pension for wartime veterans like him, called the Aid and Attendance Benefit that could provide financial assistance to pay for home care services.